Some people buy cars. Others have affairs, get tattoos, or color their hair. Whatever it is, at some point everyone goes through their own “mid-life crisis”. The good news is all in the word “through”. Just like a tunnel, sooner or later you will come out on the other side. The issue is whether it will fundamentally change you, and if so, how.
My own mid-life crisis was not so much of a crisis as it was a circumstance. I didn’t do anything crazy, like a tattoo, or destructive, like an affair. I did color my hair, but that had more to do with strangers calling me “Grandma” when I was at the store with the toddler than with wanting to “spice up my life”. No, I made a leap of faith that I am hoping will pay off in the long run. I started my own business. Now I know what you are thinking. This is not the economy to be starting a new business in. I had taken that into consideration when I made my decision, but I went ahead and took the plunge. I had my initial start-up costs covered and I have an investor who has a vested interest in helping my business succeed. And now that I am up and running, I am being fairly conservative in my approach to my business so that I don’t get all wacky.
Ironically, while all of this was going on, my husband and I had some long talks and came to an understanding regarding our relationship. While I know that he is unable to participate in some of the activities that I enjoy, I had been holding myself back for a while, not participating myself, out of deference to him. When we talked about it, he agreed that I should not stop what I wanted to do just because of him, and whenever possible he would join me in what I was doing. Feeling more secure than ever in my home life helped spur my decision regarding the business, but meanwhile, back at the ranch . . . my mother-in-law called, out of the blue, to ask my husband if our marriage was on the rocks! She had been seeing me go and do without my hubby, and to her mind that spells DOOM. It took me some time to stop laughing when my husband told me about the phone call. Even now I am smiling thinking about the whole thing. So, in a way, my mother-in-law is having my mid-life crisis for me. After all, if she didn’t have anything to worry about, she would worry, so this is perfect for her. Now all I have to do is put a little effort into my business, sit back, and soon I will buy that new car . . . .